Relationship Tarot

4 Relationship Tarot Spreads and Complete Beginners Love Tarot Guide

Written by Amanda Martinotti, practitioner of tarot for over 10 years.

If you aren’t a beginner and want to jump straight to the relationship tarot spreads, you can do so here:

Relationship Tarot Spreads

March is here! The grass is turning green, the snow is vanishing, and the tulips are blooming!

Do you know what else is blooming? That’s right, relationships and romance!

What else does that mean for you? You can grow your relationship or yourself to attract the partner that leaves you hot and bothered when you wake up from dreaming!

A wonderful way to enhance your life is to consult the tarot. A tarot reading for relationships gives you an in-depth look at what’s happening beneath the surface. It gives you a solution to what is going on that you and your special someone may not have realized before.

Does the idea of tarot make you queasy with curiosity?

Well, let’s not sit around the table staring at the tarot deck.

Without further ado, let’s get into the mysterious and empowering world of the tarot.

WARNING: This article may trigger the impulse to buy every deck possible! Before reading any further please make sure you have hidden all debit and credit cards.

Table of contents:

What Are Tarot Decks?

You have seen them shuffling all over social media, but what are tarot cards?

Tarot decks are made up of 78 cards that provide spiritual and intuitive insight into what is going on in your life and relationships. Contrary to what some may believe, tarot is NOT a tool to predict the future in the way you may think.

Tarot decks are made up of 22 major arcana cards, 56 minor arcana cards, and 16 court cards.

The 22 Major arcana cards relate to your large life lessons.

The 56 minor arcana cards relate to daily life lessons. These cards can change from day today.

The 16 court cards relate to people, situations, and levels of maturity in your life.

We’ll go into a deeper look at the tarot in the next sections.

How Does Tarot Work?

When you or your partner consult the cards, a few whimsical things happen. The first one happens while you shuffle; the tarot connects to your energy of the past and present. The next amazing occurrence is when you intuitively download guidance from your spirit guides as you decipher the cards. The third occurrence happens when you combine the core meanings of the tarot and the guidance you download from source.

Putting it all together, tarot absorbs the energy of your situation or relationship, and when you pull the cards, the tarot acts as a mirror. This brings energy blockages and past traumas to the surface so that you can heal and move forward.

Tarot also shows where things need improvement in order to bloom, such as in your relationship or work you or your partner need to do on yourselves in order to be able to contribute equal energy into the relationship.

Think of your relationship like a car, and tarot is the mechanic. Tarot provides empowering information on how you can fix or improve your relationship.

Common Myths About Tarot

You most likely have some questions about tarot.

While the media is getting better at accurately portraying tarot readings and how tarot can positively affect a relationship there is still Hollywood hype.

1. Is tarot evil?

This is one of the most common myths. Tarot is NOT evil; it does not bring bad luck into your life to read tarot. Tarot cards are essentially playing cards, and the messages are interpreted differently by everyone as we are all unique channels of divine messages.

2. “You can only read tarot if you’re born with “magical blood.”

Another myth! Anyone has the ability to learn tarot. That’s what makes it so special! You and your partner can read tarot side by side and still get a different reading! If you meet someone who says that you cannot read tarot unless it’s in your blood, pay no attention to them. This is something called “gatekeeping,” and it’s non-spiritual folk trying to keep the spiritual people out.

3. “Tarot Must Be Gifted ONLY. You can’t buy your own deck.”

FALSE! If this was the case there wouldn’t be tarot deck creators and tarot readers. Or, there wouldn’t be as many of them! It may even be a better idea to buy your own deck since your own energy is behind it already! Sometimes family or friends will give us a deck, and we have no connection with it because it’s not aligned with our individuality. After all, who knows you better than yourself?

4. The death card is bad in a reading, especially a love reading.

Not true! In fact, death is symbolic of change and transformation. It can signify the growth of the relationship or person or show what the person needs to let go of. We’ll talk more about an in-depth discussion of the death tarot card in the next section.

5. “You’ll ruin your life if you give yourself a tarot reading.”

Okay, so maybe the belief is not as dramatic as that. However, no matter what people may think reading tarot will not disturb or harm your life.

Now there is ONE exception:

Never rely on tarot to tell you what to do 100% of your life or relationship.

You need to understand, tarot readings for relationships or love are meant to be a guide. They are not meant to direct your life 100% of the time.

There comes a point when you must learn to absorb the digestive information that tarot readings provide and trust your inner direction to choose the path to go on.

6. MYTH – Tarot Readings Can Be Used to Diagnose Medical Conditions.

This should be taken very seriously.

Tarot readings DO NOT replace the care of a medical, legal, therapist, or other professional.

Set aside all of the spiritual woo and you have beautiful pieces of paper that make up a 78 card deck. This deck did not go to medical school or have training in medical care. Therefore, if you or your partner are having serious issues that require a medical professional, please seek appropriate help. Do NOT consult the tarot.

7. Tarot can 100% Predict the Future.

Not true! Tarot is like a map that can guide you to getting to your desired destination in life and love. However, you are still at free will to take the advice of tarot readings or not.

A Brief History of Tarot

Before you get into the healing dimensions of tarot readings for relationships, it is a good idea to learn about how tarot was born!

The Birth of Tarot in France and Italy Through Playing Cards

Our tarot descendants have been documented as far back as the 14th century, where, In Europe, creators designed the original playing cards.

The cards were made for the sole purpose of card games, using the four different suits of staves or swords, sticks or wands, chalices or cups, and discs or pentacles. These suits are the same as what they are commonly called in tarot today.

In the mid 14th century, Italian painters began to create immensely elaborate cards that expanded the original set of playing cards. These cards were deemed trump or triumph cards. Their purpose was to portray extravagant and abundant families.

People who held a high position in society hired Italian creatives to paint cards after their friends and families. Doing so gave them a completely customized deck to pass down as family heirlooms.

Unfortunately, at this time, these family heirlooms were not able to be owned by everyone. In fact, unless you were rich you could not have a deck made for your family.

Centuries down the line, the first printer press shops were born and playing cards became an affordable option for all.

If you’d like to see examples of some of the first playing and tarot decks ever created, click here.

The Start of Tarot and Divination

The birth of tarot being used as a divination tool is recorded as far back as the 16th century and 17th century. But, it was also believed reading tarot in divination terms was not as complex as we read tarot today.

It wasn’t until the 18th century that the meanings and symbolism had begun being assigned to each card. This also included instructions as to how to lay the cards out for readings.

Etteilas Early Tarot Spread 18th Century
Etteila’s Early Tarot Spread 18th Century. Sacred Texts Sixth Lesson from Etteila’s Original and Unpublished Method of Fortune-Telling by the Tarot. ISTA,
Italian Tarot Cards in an uncut sheet from the 16th century. Cary Collection of Playing Cards. 0AD.

Tarot & Kabbalah

Marseille Tarot
Marseille Tarot. Humpis-Quartier, Public domain, via Wikimedia Commons

The first, popular modern tarot deck was titled “Marseille Tarot.” If you browse on Amazon or eBay it is still available for purchase today.

In 1781, Protestant minister Antoine Court De Gebelin produced an intense observation of the tarot titled Le Monde Primitif (“The Primitive World”). In his work, he exposes that the meaning of tarot originates from the ancient wisdom of Egyptian Priests. If you read French, you can read the entire text here.

He continues to outline how this sacred wisdom was delivered to the Catholic Church. From here, the Catholic Church tried to silence the ancient knowledge.

In De Gebelin’s essay, he shows how the definitions of each card can be traced back to ancient Egyptian Gods such as Isis and Osiris.

The biggest setback to De Gelin’s work is a lack of concrete proof that any of the claims are indeed true.

French occultist Jean-Baptiste Alliette, also known by the pseudonym Etteila, created the first tarot deck that was designed for divination purposes. Prior to his tarot deck debut, Alliette created a guidebook in 1785 for tarot on how to use it for divination based on De Gebelin’s work, titled Manière de Se Récréer Avec Le Jeu de Cartes Nommées Tarots (“How to Entertain Yourself With the Deck of Cards Called Tarot”).

You can see Etteila’s divination spread in the previous section.

As ethereal awareness grew following the explosive introduction of tarot, it became closely connected to the Kabbalah as well as hermetic mysticism.

When the Victorian Era emerged, tarot readings became a beloved hobby of the wealthy. It was common to witness extravagant parties where tarot and other divination such as tea readings took place as the main sources of entertainment.

The Birth of the Rider-Waite Tarot Deck

Pamela Colman Smith
Pamela Colman Smith. Unknown photographer, Public domain, via Wikimedia Commons
Arthur Waite Photograph
Arthur Waite. J. Russell and Sons, Public domain, via Wikimedia Commons

You’ve probably seen this deck used by many tarot readers today as it is arguable the most popular tarot deck.

Hermetic Order of the Golden Dawn members Arthur Waite and Pamela Colman Smith created the first Rider-Waite deck in 1909.

Arthur Waite and Pamela Colman combined the art of the first fully illustrated 78 card tarot deck, Sola Busca tarot (Italian artwork), with Colman’s unique paintings.

Colman was the first artist to create characters that aligned with the suits of tarot.

This is how the beloved Rider-Waite tarot was born!

Tarot Today

Over a century later, tarot has prospered into a cherished practice to raise your vibrations, enhance your spiritual growth, overcome trauma, and improve your relationships and love life!

In fact, there are thousands of tarot decks as the expansion of the tarot flourishes. With this massive boom in the spiritual and even the traditional psychiatry fields, more artists are stepping forward and creating decks almost daily!

That means that you are fated to find a deck that aligns with your personality!

The In-Depth Guide to Tarot Meanings

Now that you have had a deeper look at the history of tarot, it’s time to take a look at the meanings. For the sake of avoiding mass confusion, each description will be very simply described and include a question that you can answer in your tarot journal (we’ll talk about that more in the future sections).

The Major Arcana

The first 22 cards that we are going to cover in the massive 78 card tarot deck are the major arcana cards. These cards play a very significant role in your life. Often, they are believed to be the vital lessons we agreed to learn in our life right before we were reincarnated into our present life.

The major arcana is split into three groups of tarot cards.

The first group of major arcana cards is associated with your connection with the material world and issues that are associated with them. These include: finances, marriage, education, and career success

The First Group of Major Arcana Cards

  1. The Fool
The Fool Rider-Waite Tarot Card

The fool card is often depicted as a person about to walk off a cliff with a bag lifted over their shoulders.

The fool represents an awakening, or a new path, when it is in the upright position.

However, if you pull the fool card and it is reversed, it is asking you to look before you jump off the cliff. You may need to examine all options in a situation or relationship before you make a decision.

Question: What path will you take next?

  1. The Magician
The Magician Rider-Waite Tarot Card

On the magician card, a man is often dressed in a robe attire. Standing before an altar, they stand tall raising one arm with a wand pointed at the sky.

The magician symbolizes knowing that you are in control of your destiny and relationship when upright. It can also signify learning that you are the only person that can change your life.

When the magician is in reverse, it can portray someone dissuaded by the illusion of perfection. They are often worried about living up to everyone’s expectations rather than focusing inward to live up to their own.

Question: How can you take control of your relationship or situation?

  1. The High Priestess
The High Priestess Rider-Waite Tarot Card

The high priestess card depicts a person donned in a robe with a cross on it. Sitting in front of a field of sunflowers, the high priestess card speaks of a lesson that can only be learned through experience.

The high priestess tells about spiritual enlightenment.

In reverse, the high priestess speaks of someone who is either running from a spiritual experience or in need of spiritual awakening.

Question: What spiritual lessons am I learning? What spiritual lessons do I need to learn?

  1. The Empress
The Empress Rider-Waite Tarot Card

On the empress card, a motherly figure resides on her comfy chair while holding her wand up.

The Empress represents fertility, birth, finances, and abundance.

In reverse, the Empress card represents a lack of abundance, creativity, or a lack in growth.

Question: What needs to grow in my life?

  1. The Emperor
The Emperor Rider-Waite Tarot Card

The emperor card features a stern-faced male sitting on his throne representing order and authority.

The emperor reminds us that we need order and structure in our life to live our most freeing life.

In reverse, it may signify a need to get back on track with your goals, or relationships.

Question: Where do I need order in my life/relationship?

  1. The Hierophant
The Hierophant Rider-Waite Tarot Card

On the hierophant card, a man which looks similar to the high priestess card sits donned in a chair with a cross in his hand.

The hierophant talks about ritual and ceremony in a community rather than solitary such as in the high priestess card.

In reverse, the hierophant can signify needing to come out of isolation and connect with your community.

Question: How can I connect with my community as a whole? What community should I look at and connect with to come out of isolation?

  1. The Lovers
The Lovers Rider-Waite Tarot Card

The lovers card features a woman and man staring at each other while a guardian angel watches over them.

While the lover’s card may sound like a romance card, it is instead symbolic of a choice you have made that makes your heart leap with joy. The lovers can also symbolize a need for balance between your emotions, nurturing, and romantic side (feminine) and your order and structural side (masculine).

In reverse, the lover’s card urges you to revisit a choice you made in a situation.

Question: Are the choices I’m making bringing me joy? Do I need to revisit a decision?

  1. The Chariot
The Chariot Rider-Waite Tarot Card

On the chariot card, a man is depicted moving along in a coach driven by two sphinxes. The chariot card is a card of movement.

It can be moving on from what no longer serves you, a vacation, or can hint at a pregnancy especially if the empress card is pulled as a clarifier (a card that offers deeper insight into an already drawn tarot card).

In reverse, the chariot can symbolize needing to move on, whether that be from a relationship or a situation no longer serving your best interest.

Question: What do I need to move on from? What is my next path to navigate?

The Second Group of Major Arcana Cards

The second group of Major Arcana cards relates to the propensity to transform. Please note, changes are great even if they may not appear like it at the moment.

  1. Strength
Strength Rider-Waite Tarot Card

A man is holding the mouth of a lion wide open. This card is often feared but it should not be.

In an upright position, the strength card represents the ability to balance material desires with spiritual confidence. In other words, manifesting or knowing that you can gain anything you want and the universe has your back.

In reverse, the strength card signifies holding onto material possessions and a lack of spiritual faith.

Question: How can I expand my spiritual faith?

  1. The Hermit
The Hermit Rider-Waite Tarot Card

A wise man stares at the lantern in his hand. In his other hand, a tall stick helps him to stand balanced while atop a mountain.

The hermit reminds you to look within.

When we are ready, we can access this in-depth, spiritual wisdom that holds the key to who we are.

The hermit in reverse signifies someone who is not listening to the wisdom of their inner temples.

Question: Who was I? What wisdom resides in me from my past life?

  1. The Wheel of Fortune
The Wheel of Fortune Rider-Waite Tarot Card

A wheel with a plethora of symbols and sigils rotates in the sky surrounded by four clouds with angels in the clouds.

The wheel of fortune card is a card of earned luck. The wheel of fortune speaks about the ability to create our own good luck by making conscious choices. To draw this card is good luck that has been earned through hard work.

The wheel of fortune in reverse signifies the need to change your course. You are bored and your life has become stagnant. It’s time to redirect your path and make a change.

Question: How can I make decisions that are in my best interest in order to change my luck?

  1. Justice
Justice Rider-Waite Tarot Card

A person resembling a judge sits on a throne with a sword in his hand.

The justice card does not only talk about success in legal matters, but rather, the justice card represents karma in life. We cannot have our ups without our downs. On the flip side, we cannot have our downs with our ups.

When upright, the justice card represents learning a lesson with karma on your side.

In reverse, justice represents needing to learn a lesson you are missing.

Question: What karmic lessons am I being shown to improve my well-being?

  1. The Hanged Man
The Hanged Man Rider-Waite Tarot Card

A man is hanging upside down in the air.

The hanged man upright represents taking time to pause and be in the moment. Now isn’t the time to act.

In reverse, the hanged man represents needing to let go of what is no longer serving you so that you can change your perspective. Doing so will help you navigate along your journey.

Question: What needs surrendering?

  1. Death
Death Rider-Waite Tarot Card

The death card is often feared because of superstitions surrounding it. Please do not fear this card. In fact, the death card has very little to do with physical death.

A skeleton-faced man in armor perches on a horse with a flag in his hands.

The death card represents change; you are entering a new cycle of life by closing a door that has been long due to shut.

In reverse, the death card warns you that you need to cut ties with people or things no longer serving you.

Question: What do I need to let go of? Where should I look next?

  1. Temperance
Temperance Rider-Waite Tarot Card

An angel stands in a calm, cool river. In the angel’s hands are two chalices in which water is being transferred between them.

The temperance card reminds us that we can dream all day long. But, if we never take action to pursue our dreams, they will only be fantasies.

In reverse, the temperance card is asking you to quit daydreaming and start taking physical steps to manifest your wishes.

Question: What do I need to do to make my dream become my reality?

The Third Group of Major Arcana Cards

The final group of the major arcana cards brings cards of intuitive transformation.

  1. The Devil
The Devil Rider-Waite Tarot Card

This is another card that is often mistaken for being an “evil” card. But this is not the case. In fact, the devil card can be a card of freedom.

A horned man sits on his ungodly throne, chaining two people to each other and to him.

The devil card speaks of cords we need to cut. There are toxic people or things that are holding us hostage and we need to set ourselves free.

In reverse, the devil card speaks of being unwilling to change. You are chasing the same carousel, and the results are going to continue in this vicious cycle. It’s time to step off the merry-go-round. Aren’t you getting dizzy?

Question: What do I need to release that’s toxic? What patterns are unhealthy in my life?

  1. The Tower
The Tower Rider-Waite Tarot Card

The poles that make the top of the tower are coming crashing down and fast! This is a card of chaos.

The tower represents sudden change. This can be a divorce, a relationship ending, a pregnancy, or even a job loss.

In reverse, the tower card represents a happy change but only if you are willing to pay a high ticket price.

Question: What is changing that is out of my control?

  1. The Star
The Star Rider-Waite Tarot Card

A lovely nude woman is pouring water into a pond while pouring water onto the grass near her feet.

The star is a card of hope, enlightenment, and needing to remain calm among chaos for the truth shall come to the surface.

In reverse, the star card represents negativity. It may represent someone who feels like everyone and everything that happens in their life is out to get them.

Question: What am I waiting for? What do I need to wait for that’s coming to the surface?

  1. The Moon
The Moon Rider-Waite Tarot Card

A beautiful full moon is clear as the light of day. Two dogs/wolves are howling at the moon.

The moon may represent psychic abilities coming to surface. It can also represent needing to rely on your instinct about a situation. Things may not be as wonderful as they seem. The moon can also represent infidelity and cheating.

In reverse, the moon card signifies needing to listen to your gut more. You need to let go of self-doubt and listen to the intuitive voice within.

Question: What are my psychic abilities trying to tell me?

  1. The Sun
The Sun Rider-Waite Tarot Card

A child clad in his birthday suit sits upon his noble steed. The sunflowers are large and beautiful, and the sun is shining. What more could someone want?!

The sun card represents joy, contentment, and satisfaction.

In reverse, the sun card can represent misery, anger, and even depression. You may need to change your attitude if you want to see the sun.

Question: What joys await me? What am I grateful for?

  1. Judgment
Judgement Rider-Waite Tarot Card

On the judgment card, an angel is having a mini-concert with several of their closest friends.

This card represents a massive awakening and growth that you have finally conquered.

In reverse, the card represents a person that is against long-term relationships or someone who is full of fear.

Question: What awakening have I undergone? What awakening do I need to undergo?

  1. The World
The World Rider-Waite Tarot Card

A large circle encases a person who has a baton.

The world card represents success! It celebrates with us that something we have been working for, or wanting, is about to come into our life!

In reverse, the world card shows success can be achieved, but you must be willing to move on first.

Question: What am I celebrating? What do I need to do to move on?

The Minor Arcana

The minor arcana consists of 56 cards which give advice about how to approach our day. These cards differ as each passing day changes.

The Four Suits of the Minor Arcana

Ace of Cups Rider-Waite Tarot Card
Ace of Wands Rider-Waite Tarot Card
Ace of Swords Rider-Waite Tarot Card
Ace of Pentacles Rider-Waite Tarot Card

Each of the four suits represents a different aspect of our daily lives:

  • Cups (Water Element): Emotions, relationships to others, and the self.
  • Wands (Fire Element): Energy, motivation, inspiration.
  • Swords (Air Element): Communication, mindset.
  • Pentacles (Earth Element): Home, finances, career, family, education.

The Numbers of the Minor Arcana

Unlike the major arcana which typically has a distinct person on each card, the minor arcana varies greatly. For the sake of not overloading your brain with the myriad of card designs, we are going to focus on each number.

  • Ones: Beginnings or sendings.
  • Twos: Balance, or lack of.
  • Threes: Expansion, or lack of, celebrations.
  • Fours: Hoarding, dissociation, fear of scarcity, rest.
  • Fives: Conflicts, or solving conflicts.
  • Sixes: Memories, victories, abundance.
  • Sevens: Too many choices, needing to make a choice, secrets, defensiveness, needing to stand up for yourself.
  • Eights: Overwhelmed, stuck in a situation brought on by the self, needing to look deep within, fast-moving.
  • Nines: Preparing, manifesting, satisfaction, anxiety, worry.
  • Tens: Finality, Abundance, career success, promotion, business is booming, happy relationships.

The Court Cards of the Minor Arcana

Page of Wands Rider-Waite Tarot Card
Knight of Pentacles Rider-Waite Tarot Card
Queen of Cups Rider-Waite Tarot Card
King of Swords Rider-Waite Tarot Card

Many people dread the court cards because they look intimidating. But with this simple guide, you’ll be reading the court cards faster than one-day shipping on that new deck you’ve ordered!

  • Pages: The pages in the court cards represent child-like wonder, immaturity, impulsiveness, creativity, and observations. Think of the pages as a baby or child.
  • Knights: The knights represent action or lack of action. Think of the knights as unruly teenagers.
  • Queens: The queens stand for nurturing, and motherly energies. The queens may want you to nurture or heal a part of your life that needs growth. Think of the queens as a wise, older woman who sees you as their daughter or son.
  • Kings: The Kings in the court cards represent observing all obstacles, paths, and options before making a choice. They challenge you to make a choice that will benefit both you and your partner for your greatest good. Think of the kings as orderly scholars. They are masters of the suits and can help you to reach mastery level at whatever it is you’re trying to improve on in your life.
  • The Court Cards in the Suit of Cups

The court cards in the suit of cards represent a person, or an aspect of yourself or the person you are reading about. Remember that this aspect or person has a connection to emotions and feelings that you may have.

  • The Court Cards in the Suit of Swords

The court cards in the suit of swords pertain to a person or aspect in relation to communication or mindset.

  • The Court Cards in the Suit of Pentacles

The court cards in the suit of pentacles represent a person or aspect that relates to family, money, abundance, career, and education.

  • The Court Cards in the Suit of Wands

The court cards in the suit of wands relate to a person or aspect of your life in connection to energy, motivation, or willpower.

How to Read Tarot For Relationships

The first step to reading tarot for relationships is selecting a tarot deck. You may want to consider a relationship-themed tarot deck, such as the the Crystal Visions Tarot by Jennifer Galasso and The Enchanted Love Tarot by Amy Zerner and Monte Farber. If you are not able to obtain a romance-themed tarot card deck, that’s okay too! The Rider-Waite deck will do!

Storing Your Tarot Deck

You should either keep the deck in its original box when not in use, or you can keep your tarot deck wrapped safely in a scarf and pouch of your choice. Be sure the pouch will fit your deck otherwise you may risk tearing the cards..

When you are using the deck, it should be kept in a clean, soft scarf and a bag. The scarf and bag do not have to be anything expensive. A simple bandana that has been washed and a pencil bag will do.

Be sure to add a quartz and amethyst crystal to keep the energy protected and cleaned when not in use.

You can also opt for selenite, but be careful not to get selenite wet as it will dissolve.

Storing your relationship tarot deck with amethyst quartz selenite in a scarf

Cleansing Your Tarot Deck

Before you begin to work with your chosen deck, you need to cleanse it of any previous energies that may have handled it.

To cleanse a new deck that you either bought at a store or online, you can just knock two to three times on it to clear the energy.

You can also place a tarot deck inside a plastic bag and place it in pink Himalayan salt for 24 hours.

If you don’t have salt, you can also purchase an incense or smudge stick. Carefully run each card through the smoke while visualizing the energy clearing.

It is also recommended to cleanse your deck using these same methods before and after every tarot reading.

If your deck came from someone and you aren’t sure if they have ever used the deck, you may want to leave the deck in a plastic bag in Himalayan salt for an entire month, following the moon cycles. This is a deep clean of your tarot deck.

Bonding With Your Deck

Some people say it isn’t necessary, but you want to consider getting to know your tarot deck’s energy.

To do this, simply place the deck under your pillow for two weeks and leave it in the pillowcase (except for when you are cleaning your sheets). During those two weeks make it a point to read the guide. Do this once each of the two weeks or more if you feel drawn to do it.

Remember, the guidebook is only a guide. It is NOT meant to be used as a crutch during your readings.

We’ll go over simple ways to enhance your intuition every day. Using your own intuition and not the guidebook will also help you trust yourself more, thus, allowing you to pick up readings quicker and with improved clarity.

Easy Ways to Open Your Intuition

  1. Yoga– simple yoga poses will not only help you to destress, but they will also help you strengthen your intuition.
  2. Meditation– you don’t have to spend a long time meditating. In fact, spending five minutes out in nature in a disturbance (and electronic)-free area can help you ground and strengthen your intuition

If you are not able to get outdoors you can also set aside a room of your choice and use it for tarot readings and intuitive development.

Aside from meditation, you can also purchase books on your device or any bookstore that will help you develop your intuition. It is best to begin with a book for beginners. These techniques tend to be simple and easy to tailor to your needs.

Now that you have read the guide; bought, cleansed, and bonded with your deck; and opened your intuition, it is time to delve into the relationship tarot spreads.

Tarot Spreads for Relationships

The four spreads will help you attract love, enhance your marriage, better your relationship, or explore relationship potential between you and the person of interest.

Before you shuffle the cards and perform a reading, please make sure you and your partner, if applicable, have both spent ten minutes meditating. This will help you relax and channel energy more efficiently.

One Card Relationship Tarot Spread For Singles

1 Card Relationship Tarot Spread for Singles

This simple card spread will help you learn how to attract love, or it can be used as a daily forecast for your relationship.


  1. Once you have spent some time clearing your mind, find a place to sit quietly. This should be somewhere you will not be bothered.
  2. You may ask your archangels and spirit guides to protect you at this time.
  3. Visualize a gold shield around you.
  4. Take a deep breath focusing your question on the cards as you shuffle.
    • What do I need to know to attract love in my life?
    • How can I improve my relationship today?
  5. When you feel ready draw the card from the top.
  6. Sit patiently and wait for the answer to come to you. You also may want to keep a journal and write in.

In case you need a reminder, The In-Depth Guide to Tarot Meanings and Easy Ways to Open Your Intuition sections will help you with your reading until you become more versed in the practice.

Three Card Tarot Spread for Relationship Potential

3 Card Relationship Tarot Spread for Relationship Potential

Perhaps you’ve been dating someone for a while but aren’t sure about going steady. This spread will show you the energy and potential between you both.


  1. Once you have spent some time clearing your mind, find a place to sit quietly. This should be somewhere you will not be bothered.
  2. You may ask your archangels and spirit guides to protect you at this time.
  3. Visualize a gold shield around you.
  4. Take a deep breath focusing your question on the cards as you shuffle.
    • What is the relationship potential between (insert name) and me?
  5. When you feel ready, draw three cards.
  6. Card one is your energy and intention in the relationship. Card two represents your partner’s intent or energy in the relationship. Card three represents the outcome based on your energies combined.
  7. Sit patiently and wait for the answer to come to you.
  8. You also may wish to keep a diary to write the intuitive messages that you get. Keep these on hand to refer to in the future.

In case you need a reminder, The In-Depth Guide to Tarot Meanings and Easy Ways to Open Your Intuition sections will help you with your reading until you become more versed in the practice. Remember, you have free will and even a lower potential relationship could work as long as it suits you both well and does not cross any of your lines.

Five Card Relationship Tarot Spread for Marriage Check-Up

5 Card Relationship Tarot Spread for Marriage Check-Up

Perhaps your marriage has been wonderful. But lately, you two seem to be at each other’s neck (and not in a sexy way). This spread is designed to help you come up with a viable solution for both of you that will improve your marriage. This reading does require both partners to be present at the time of the reading.


  1. Both partners will sit at the table or place of the reading.
  2. Both of you will take five deep breaths. During this time you both will clear your thoughts and picture a gold shield of protection around both of you.
  3. Decide on who is going to shuffle.
  4. The person who shuffles will focus on asking the deck how to improve your marriage.
  5. When ready, the person who has shuffled will lay out the cards. Two go to their left. Then one goes in the center. Finally, draw two cards and place them to the right of the center card.
  6. You will begin reading the two cards to the left. These present both of your hearts in the marriage. Now you read the center card. The center card represents the possible outcome based on the two cards you have previously read. Following the outcome card, you will read the two cards to the right. Each card represents advice for each one of you to improve your marriage.
  7. You may want to include writing in a notebook to refer back to at a later date.

In case you need a reminder, The In-Depth Guide to Tarot Meanings and Easy Ways to Open Your Intuition sections will help you with your reading until you become more versed in the practice.

Seven Card Tarot Spread for Improving Relationships

7 Card Relationship Tarot Spread for Improving Relationships

If you’ve been in a relationship for a few years and it’s struck a plateau, this tarot spread can help get the momentum going.

  1. Both partners will take five deep breaths to clear their minds.
  2. Picture a gold shield of protection around both of you.
  3. When you are ready, you will shuffle the cards while asking for information that you need to know from the source about how to conquer the plateau in your relationship.
  4. Place one card on the upper left side of the table. This is the theme of the entire reading.
  5. You will pull three cards and place them on the left side of the table.
  6. Now hand the deck to your partner and they will now ask their source the question you asked in step three.
  7. When your partner feels ready, they will pull three cards and place them on the right side of the surface of where you are doing the reading.
  8. When ready, you will read your three cards and then your partner will read theirs. Card one represents your mind and thoughts in the relationship. Card two represents your body and physical energy in the relationships. Card three speaks about your souls in the relationship and any past life trauma or lessons you may need to release to get the relationship moving again.
  9. You each will share and journal the results of the reading and keep them as a reference at a later date.

In case you need a reminder, The In-Depth Guide to Tarot Meanings and Easy Ways to Open Your Intuition sections will help you with your reading until you become more versed in the practice.

Reading tarot for relationships and love may seem hard at first. However, if you keep working at it alone, or with a partner, you will pick it up in no time.


If you’d like to learn more about tarot these website links can help you!

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If you are in a new relationship, follow-up with our advice before taking the next step. If you already have kids, learn how to connect during family date night. And no matter what stage of your relationship you are in, check out these date ideas for challenging your soul and spiritual side.

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